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What Do Wealth Mindset Success Coaches Do?

What Do Wealth Mindset Success Coaches Do?

In short, a wealth mindset success coach helps a person release the internal barriers that are holding them back in so many areas of their life, limiting abundance.

The coach shows you how unconscious thought patterns, limiting beliefs, abundance blocks, and negative perceptions are responsible for causing mayhem in health, happiness, relationships, financial security, emotional, personal, even spiritual expression, and overall wellness.

The coach takes you on a journey of self-discovery, nurturing your aha’s while triumphing breakthroughs and discoveries, teaching you how to tap into your natural wealth attraction ability.

 Coaches of all kinds help their clients establish positivity, new habits and results that make life sweeter, better.

But the wealth mindset success coach knows that for you to experience the ultimate state of abundance in all of life’s areas, your mindset is the essential window for all you desire to become your ideal reality.

With the holidays approaching, we can feel challenged in our money and time abundance.

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I am my unique self – special, creative, and wonderful.

I am my unique self – special, creative, and wonderful.

Walking the Tan Track Melbourne early one morning with my sister Anne, deep in our conversation, I suddenly understood my need for learning new things. 

I love learning and am always spending money on training, courses and coaching. Sometimes caught in the sales hype, I’ve spent money that I later regretted. And I judged myself for this. 

But now, I understand this need within me. I completed the Clifton Strengths assessment, and Learning, Intellection and Input are three of my top 6 strengths. 

Ahh, I get it now. I learn for the joy of learning, not necessarily for what it will give me. The shame I felt arose because there’s been training that I hadn’t fully acted upon – I could view it as a waste of money. But then I understood that I input information in my mind and can retrieve it quickly, which becomes an intellectual and intuitive resource when working with my clients. 

Speaking about it with Anne allowed me to connect the dots. I felt validated, and I let go of the judgement and shame that I was carrying. I saw my strengths and was awed by the result of the assessment. It explained so much. 

According to my trainer, of more than 25 million assessments, no two are the same! I am unique! And, I am not alone!

In some ways, it shouldn’t surprise me after all; we have unique fingerprints, personalities, experiences, perceptions; our children are all different, our pets have their quirks and personalities. Not even two snowflakes are alike. 

 

Wow! 

Can you take that in? 

Why am I telling you this? 

 

So that you can be mind blown knowing that you too are your unique self. To embrace it, explore that idea more deeply and stop fitting in with the masses and valuing mediocrity. 

I am my own unique self – special, creative, and wonderful. We ALL are. 

Numerous tools help you understand who you are, how you show up, how others perceive you, and why you do what you do. 

Here are just a few examples that I have experienced in the interest in knowing myself more deeply:

 

“You Are Unique. You Are Powerful. Be Confident With Who You Are”
Understanding your strengths unlocks your potential and leads you to greater performance. – Clifton Strengths 

 

Why is it helpful to self-reflect and understand yourself better? 

Self-reflection has provided me with more tools, insights, validation, and self-acceptance of who I am and how I show up in the world. This understanding gives me tremendous courage to be me. I can be understanding and enjoy these aspects of myself rather than comparing and judging. I am focusing on my strengths rather than looking only at my flaws.

I am unique in the universe. My Creator made me with a particular intention in mind. I am special, creative, and wonderful. Remembering these ideas helps me strive to reach my full potential.

Of all the people in the world, I am the only one that is exactly like me. My unique qualities and talents are gifts, and it is up to me to develop them to share with others and better the world around me.

I find my creative abilities increasing each day. I can find out-of-the-box solutions to any challenge. Being creative fills me with a sense of pride and wonder.

 

It can be challenging to be different from others. But I appreciate and embrace my uniqueness. My value to the world is directly related to my ability to demonstrate that I am one of a kind. 

It seems to me that fitting in makes me average, and ordinary people rarely do extraordinary things. Another reason I am happy is that I am different.

Each day, I become more confident that I am special. I have the strength to let the world see my true self. I am proud of who I am.

Today, I am willing to embrace my uniqueness and that of others as well. Each one of us, including me, is special, creative, and wonderful. It is up to me to show everyone how special I am.

And it’s up to you too. 

Ponder these Self-Reflection Questions

  1. What are some of my unique qualities that the average person doesn’t have?
  2. How can I use my special talents to increase my confidence?
  3. How can I capitalize on those qualities that make me unique?

Embracing your uniqueness is related to your self-worth. The higher your self-worth is, the more willing you are to receive payment for your value (think income, compliments, respects, gifts, ease, pleasure, and joy) and share your gifts with the world. 

If you know you are holding yourself back and yet are dreaming of much more, book a Wealth Breakthrough Session. Valued at $250, it’s yours free. 

4 Easy Ways to Rise Up From Discouragement and Feel Better About Yourself

4 Easy Ways to Rise Up From Discouragement and Feel Better About Yourself

Life isn’t always what you expect. When the results you hope for don’t manifest themselves, this can sometimes leave you questioning your self-worth and abilities. It’s easy to fall into that trap of discouragement.

The good news is that you can also get yourself out of that melancholy mood!

Whenever you’re down in the dumps, it’s vital to take action to start feeling better about yourself. Dwelling on the negative and remaining in a depressed state is unhealthy. After a while, you’ll feel like you’re moving backward instead of forward. And this makes it more challenging to get back to a positive mindset.

Try these simple tips to restore your belief in you:

1. Reflect on past successes.

If you’re honest with yourself, you realise that you’ve enjoyed many successes in the past. 

  • Reflect on how satisfied and happy you felt when you earned something you worked extremely hard for.
  • Remember a time when you added value to another person. It may have been as simple as offering a smile, generously listening, holding them in high regard and validating them when they feel upset. 
  • Think about the impact you’ve had on your peers when you accomplished something they would love to achieve themselves and how you inspired them. 

2. Know that you’re uniquely created.

You have a unique blend of talents, abilities, personality, appearance, and purpose that is different from everyone else on the planet. There is no one else like you, and that’s a wonderful thing!

  • Remember times when you came up with your solution to a challenge that made things better for you or those around you.
  • Since you’re the only person like you, why not focus on your unique abilities and put those to work to evoke positive change in your life? Setting your new ideas in motion will go a long way toward restoring your self-confidence.

3. Do something you’re good at.

A sure way to boost how you feel about yourself is to do something you already know you’re good at.

  • Having even a small success is an excellent way to build reassurance and focus on the positive. 
  • It’s okay to need that self-reassurance from time to time. It’s a challenging time in a tough world, and it’s easy for outside influences to dampen your drive. Remind yourself that you’re a star in a part of the sky where nobody else shines quite as bright.
  • Proving to yourself that you can do something often gives you just enough motivation to get past that rough patch.

4. Make someone else feel special.

Making a positive impact on someone else’s life is one of the most empowering and uplifting experiences you can have!

  • Try volunteering at a local agency that helps those less fortunate than you. So many lives need a caring touch. Taking the opportunity to help them will enable you to feel that much more worthy.
  • Encouraging another person who lacks self-esteem can bring inner satisfaction that allows you to find your true purpose. You may sometimes forget about your hardships for a while because you’re so focused on helping someone else overcome theirs.

Try not to dwell on the negative feelings you might have about yourself. Know that all our emotions are part of the human experience. And you are not alone. 

 

Share your beautiful qualities with the world.

Instead, celebrate all the beautiful qualities you have inside and share those with the world. Take the time to reflect on your blessings, and you’ll begin to see for yourself how awesome and unique you are.

If you would like to delve deeper into how to change your state and feel more uplifted, access my chapter of The Anxiety Relief Handbook for FREE! 

 

In this chapter, you will discover:

  • How to understand yourself better; why you think and feel the way that you do.
  • Practical exercises to guide you to a place of calmness and clarity. 
  • Raise your vibration so that you attract abundance into your life.
  • Release guilt and feelings of loyalty to people or situations that no longer serve you.
  • Discover what you need, learn how to ask for it, and be open to receiving it from others.
  • Learn how to build trust and watch what you need to come into your life.
  • Develop practical skills for improving self-awareness and a positive mindset.

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It’s Okay To Say No Without Feeling Guilty

It’s Okay To Say No Without Feeling Guilty

Nurses and other caring professionals experience a lot of stress in their jobs.

Caring for another person entails patience and empathy. Plus, with the additional stress due to the COVID-19 pandemic, there has been a rise in stress levels, burnout and anxiety among nurses and caring professionals. Many of the pre-existing problems within these industries are highlighted.

Relationships are stressed, there is hierarchical and horizontal aggression, and blaming is rampant, staff do not feel valued.

But if you think it can’t get any more difficult, wait until one of your superiors or co-workers approaches you to ask for an extra shift, stay back for overtime, cover sick leave, or help with another set of tasks.

But for many caring professionals, we feel the need to help everyone. And, we are pulled between not wanting to disappoint, proving we are good enough, or not wanting to feel judged or rejected for saying no. Thus, saying yes to all these additional requests can come at the cost of our own health and well-being.

But why do we feel guilty in the first place?

Why We Feel Guilty For Saying No

 Before we dive into the ways you can practice saying no without feeling guilty, let’s break down why we do feel guilty in the first place. 

Guilt is an emotion we feel when we do something wrong. So if you’ve truly wronged someone, then it would be understandable why you would feel guilty. However, saying no to tasks or favors that are not in your best interest is not doing anyone wrong. So why do we feel guilty?

There are a lot of reasons for this. Some of which include not wanting to disappoint, wanting to be part of a team, wanting to prove yourself to be good enough, or even wanting to be noticed for future promotions. 

 

Why We Shouldn’t Say Yes When We Want to Say No

Saying yes when we really want to say no puts both parties at a disadvantage. For one, you are neglecting your own self-care by saying yes when you don’t mean it. Additionally, saying yes to an additional shift at work or task, when you already have too much on your plate means less than quality output. 

Here are five reasons why, caring professionals and entrepreneurs shouldn’t say yes when we want to say no. 

  • You have loved ones who need you; your partner, family, children…
  • Just because workplaces are short-staffed – look at the global shortage of nurses and other healthcare professionals, it does not mean that the responsibility falls on you. 
  • You need to prioritise your own self-care.
  • Saying no is a way to take care of your mental health. 
  • You are not responsible for how others react to you saying no.

 

 

How To Stop Saying Yes When You Want to Say No

Now that we’ve discussed the why, let’s delve into HOW to actually say NO.

 

Stop and breathe.

When we are asked a favour, whether by our superior or colleague, we can sometimes be caught off guard and quickly agree even if we want to do otherwise. In order to say no, remember to first stop and breathe. Feel your breath and take a moment to pause.

This pause is a powerful tool to help you when caught in these types of situations. It gives you space to think.

 

Don’t answer right away.

Following the first step, the next tip would be not to give an answer straight away. Instead, pause and ask if you can have some time to think about it. Tell them that you need some time to think about it or check your schedule. 

Use this time to check-in with yourself first. A lot of times we end up feeling regretful for agreeing to requests on impulse.

 

Notice how it feels in your body.

During this time, check in with yourself. Notice what you are feeling. Try imagining what would happen if you said yes, or if you said no. What do you feel during both scenarios?

 

Practice this exact scenario.

Saying no can take courage. Especially if it’s saying no to someone more senior in position, or to a close friend or even to a family member. So, in order to be able to do so gracefully, practice saying no. Practice this exact scenario. 

Try saying it in your head or try saying it out loud in front of the mirror. By practising the scenario, it will make it easier for you when the time comes to tell them no. Saying no is like a muscle that needs practice to training in order to be strengthened.

 

Remember that ‘No’ is a complete sentence. 

After practicing saying no, you can get back to the person asking for the favor and give them your answer. If they ask why, remember that “No” is a complete sentence. Your explanation is not required.

If you want to say no, just say it. Avoid offering a lot of reasons or excuses as to why you can’t agree to the request. Your co-workers will appreciate it more if you’ll be honest with them.

 

Show Empathy When Saying No

While saying no means standing up for yourself, it doesn’t mean you need to be harsh or rude about it. You want to show the person that you truly understand their problem, but it simply isn’t something you can handle right now.

Remember to show empathy. Empathy is what connects us as human beings, so it’s important to convey this on some level.

 

Remove the Guilt

Saying no takes courage and a lot of guts. But no matter how hard it is, don’t feel sorry for prioritizing yourself and taking care of yourself first. Taking on more shifts and responsibilities is a sure-fire way towards burnout.

 

Be in Charge of the Situation

When we are new to a job, we may feel intimidated or even scared of our superiors. Because of this, we can have a hard time saying no to requests. 

Follow the steps listed above. Then, take control of the situation. Let the other person know that you are standing your ground. 

 

Stop Worrying About What Others Think

Saying yes to requests and favours, when we want to say no, stems from the fear of disappointing, being judged, or wanting to be accepted. It is much more important to prioritise your own health and well-being than to compromise just to “fit in” or be accepted. 

Remember, what others think of you is none of your business. Other people’s judgment of you doesn’t reflect you, but them.

 

Confidence is appealing and charismatic

Saying no takes confidence and confidence is appealing. Being confident not only makes you more charismatic, it also makes other people respect you and your boundaries more. 

Five Ways to Say No

The next time someone asks you to do something, take a moment to pause, reflect, and ask yourself if you are already stretched thin. If so, please say no and don’t feel guilty about it. 

If you are still struggling to say no, here are five alternatives you can use.

  1. I’m not comfortable with that.
  2. I don’t think it’s a right fit for me and my current schedule.
  3. I have another commitment/ I already have plans
  4. I need to focus on myself/my personal life/my career
  5. NO!

In Conclusion

During these times, it is so essential to take care of ourselves. We need more than ever to prioritise our own well-being in order to care for another person. 

By looking after yourself first, you can provide better care for your patients and those who depend on you. 

Download this Free Cheat Sheet and learn more on how to say no without feeling guilty.





Accessing the Power of Gratitude

Accessing the Power of Gratitude

The practice of gratitude as a tool for happiness has been in the mainstream for years. 

Long-term studies support gratitude’s effectiveness, suggesting that a positive, appreciative attitude contributes to an abundance mindset and increased wealth. Other benefits include more success in work, more health, peak performance in sports and business, a higher sense of well-being, and faster recovery from surgery.

But while we may acknowledge gratitude’s many benefits, it still can be challenging to sustain. 

So many of us are trained to notice what is broken, undone or lacking in our lives. And for gratitude to meet its full healing potential in our lives, it needs to become more than just saying thank you.

We have to learn a new way of looking at things, a new habit. And that takes time and practice. 

That’s why practising gratitude makes so much sense. When we practice giving thanks for all we have, instead of complaining about what we lack, we give ourselves the chance to see all of life as an opportunity and a blessing.

Remember that gratitude isn’t a blindly optimistic approach in which the bad things in life are whitewashed or ignored. It’s more a matter of where we put our focus and attention.

 

Pain and injustice exist in this world, but when we focus on the gifts of life, we gain a feeling of well-being. Gratitude balances us and gives us hope.

 

There are many things to be grateful for: colourful autumn leaves, feet to stand on, legs that work, friends who get you and love you, chocolate, fresh eggs, warm jackets, tomatoes, the ability to read, roses, our health, butterflies. What’s on your list?

 

Some Ways to Practice Gratitude 

  • Keep a gratitude journal in which you list things for which you are thankful. You can make daily, weekly or monthly lists. Greater frequency may be better for creating a new habit, but just keeping that journal where you can see it will remind you to think gratefully.
  • Make a gratitude collage by drawing or pasting pictures.
  • Practice gratitude around the dinner table or make it part of your night-time routine.
  • Make a game of finding the hidden blessing in a challenging situation.
  • When you feel like complaining, make a gratitude list instead. Write it out, or just speak it out loud. You may be amazed by how much better you feel.
  • Notice how gratitude is impacting your life. Write about it, sing about it, express thanks, celebrate everything – every small step of progress.

As you practice, an inner shift begins to occur, and you may be delighted to discover how content and hopeful you are feeling. That sense of fulfilment is gratitude at work.

It’s Time to Drop the Perfectionism

It’s Time to Drop the Perfectionism

Do you hold yourself to high standards for everything? If so, you’re not alone. Most gifted people strive for perfection.

 

But what if inflexible standards are slowing you down and holding you back? What if they are affecting your self-worth, your wealth? 

 

There’s evidence that constant perfectionism can get in the way of a happy and productive life.
It’s connected to procrastination, low productivity, and depression.

 

We set unrealistic goals that we can’t achieve, or  which makes us difficult to be around, and downright mean and nasty to ourselves.

 

More often than not, continual high standards aren’t needed for us to succeed in life. Think about people like Einstein, Oprah, Donald Trump, Walt Disney and Bill Gates. These famously accomplished people have reported that they owe their achievements to their unstoppable nature and willingness to make mistakes.

 

Recognise when high standards are necessary.

The trick is to recognise when high standards are necessary and when they actually get in the way of innovation, efficiency and fulfilment. Getting to the place of good enough on most tasks and projects allows us to get more done without compromising quality.

 

This open-minded approach allows for creativity, innovation and fun.

 

Freedom from perfection starts with flexibility, compassion and faith in self. Remember that you are good enough as you are. You are intrinsically valuable.

 

The next time you notice that you’re driving yourself hard, procrastinating on projects or tasks, or feeling self-critical about your accomplishments, ask yourself:

“Am I holding myself to standards that aren’t needed in these circumstances?”

“What would good enough look and feel like?”

 

Breathe. Open up your heart and mind. Think flexibly about your project or task and let your standards relax. Try the “good enough approach”.

 

After all done is better than perfect for your day to day tasks and reserve your high standards for rare and special circumstances. You’ll not only get more done, you’ll also feel motivated to do more!

 

 And take on board for yourself this anonymous but very wise quote, “The word ‘Imperfect’ actually spells ‘I’m perfect’ because everyone is perfect in their own imperfect ways.” 

 

In theory we get this but changing it can be hard.

I know this is hard. In theory, we get it, but often the reality is more challenging.

To transform your life, you need to let go of your inner perfectionist and judge and learn how to love and accept yourself deeply. It’s your worth mindset.

As a Certified Tapping into Wealth Coach, I use tapping (EFT) to show my clients what is blocking them and where they are holding themselves back. We are super levelling your worth.

To learn more contact me.

Practical Tips to Overcome Anxiety

Practical Tips to Overcome Anxiety

Anxiety. Stress. Overwhelm. Burnout. 

Anxiety, stress, overwhelm, burnout. These words have different meanings and levels. Yet, people use them interchangeably because they refer to situations when your energy is depleted, and you feel trapped.

What if I tell you that you can reframe these negative feelings into a more empowering language?

Biochemically, our bodies release the same chemicals whether we are excited or scared. So, it’s a matter of reframing the labels and diagnoses we put on what we experience.

Here are some tips for you to do that.

Recognise the symptoms

Have you ever woken up at 3:00 a.m. and you can’t go back to sleep because your mind engages in a thinking loop of would’ve, could’ve and should’ve? Perhaps you have many things to do, or you are worried about something.

Even as a coach, I still suffer from these symptoms. However, I now know how to recognise them for what they are. When I do, I can start to do something about it. Perhaps write my thoughts down or do some tapping or deep breathing.

Focus on the body

Everything is a vibration, and your body vibrates slower than your thoughts and emotions.

So, bring your awareness back down to the body; it literally will slow you down.

When you focus on the inner sensations in the body, they can take you out of your spinning energy and ground you in the present, bringing you to a heightened state of being.

What is your body feeling?

Is it the weight of your bottom on your chair? Notice your feet on the ground. Is it your heart beating? Perhaps you can even hear the sound of your blood as it travels throughout your body. Does your whole body feel tight? Or is it open and loose?

There is no right or wrong feeling. Everything you are noticing is okay. 

When you are ready, you can wriggle your fingers and toes to bring you back to the room. 

Breathe

One effective method to instantly focus on the body is to do some deep breathing. Yet, a lot of people forget about it.

So if you start to feel anxious, overwhelmed, or stressed, take a deep breath. It has to be so deep that it fills the bases of your lungs. 

Allow your belly to expand. Then purse your lips and let the air out slowly.

Most of the time, it’s hard to start breathing as deeply as you want to. Try to count to two at first. Inhale, count 1-2, exhale. As you get into a rhythm, increase the count to four.

Thank your body

We wouldn’t be here without our bodies. So, give yours some thanks and gratitude for being here with you and giving you this human experience.

If you manage to complete your deep breathing exercise, give yourself an internal high five or pat on the back for dropping into your body and giving yourself some care and attention. 

Let your feelings come up and out

Many of us push down our feelings. Doing so becomes exhausting, and the trapped emotions explode during an inappropriate moment. Your partner says something, and you suddenly lash out.

To avoid such a situation, don’t fight the emotions as they rise up. Breathe deeply and feel them come up, expand and dissipate. If you need to cry, do so. You will feel so much better afterwards.

What’s great about deep breathing is you can do it anywhere. If you suffer from professional anxiety, go to the bathroom and take a breathing break. 

Practise mindfulness

Acknowledge that you are in a tough mental, emotional and physical situation. 

We all have times when things are hard, and it’s quite normal. Breathe and deal with it. Then, later on when you’re at home, allow yourself to examine what happened through questions like:

  • What was going on at the time?
  • What was I thinking?
  • What did I make it mean?

Don’t judge the answers you get. 

Through this exercise, you safely unpack the situation and your feelings and understand yourself a lot more. 

As part of mindfulness, remember:

You are valued. You are worth it. You are a unique, needed, amazing, beautiful being, an essential part of this world. 

If you want to be part of a group of people who know your value, join my Facebook group Heart Centred Professionals: Seeking More Love, More Wealth and More Confidence. It’s a safe place for people who are heart centred, care for others yet want to embrace their inner selves.

Why You Need Coaches and Coaching

Why You Need Coaches and Coaching

My whole career has been about my love of health and wellness, and helping people to be the best they can be. Even as a health and healing professional, though, I went through my own burnout journey. 

My advantage was that I understood what was going on in my world, what I was responsible for, and what I could and could not change. 

So, I left that particular workplace and finished a counselling postgrad that I was undertaking. 

These actions led me into coaching. 

All of us have that something that we just cannot get on top of. It is that something that we know can move us from the ordinary to the extraordinary. Coaching was this “something” for me.

Coaches and coaching

Athletes have coaches that bring the best out of their potential. The principle is the same for all types of coaches. 

We are the experts in our own lives. The answers are inside us, but limiting beliefs or past trauma block us. Having a coach allows us to see or blind spots. 

A coach asks thought-provoking questions so you can move forward safely and get the answers yourself. The process helps to recognise your inner critical thinking, and then moving you into empowerment. 

A coach and a client may have to do some work to heal, understand or reframe things. For example, you want to be successful, but at the same time you fear extra responsibility or that you need to work harder, or you are scared that a new job will take you away from your family.

Unlike traditional therapy coaching focuses on making you accept where you are now because you are perfect as you are. This is a great place to start discovering your potential and opportunity for growth and greatness.

Coaching also touches on self-compassion. You learn why you react in certain ways. When you discover the reason behind your reaction, then you can start forgiving yourself. This is just so freeing. You can give yourself what you have been looking outside from others to do for you. And it’s from this place of self-fullness that you can give and serve those you care for without feeling depleted. 

There is also the aspect of accountability. When you tell someone else that you are going to do something, you put power behind your words. Your coach can then help you be accountable for them and you get the results. 

Self-coaching

One advantage of coaching over therapy is self-coaching.

It is the ability to ask the right questions of yourself without judgment. You empower yourself to feel differently about things and accept whatever the answers may be.

As human beings, we all have feelings. This is normal. Yet, we don’t like many of them. We don’t like feeling sad, being in grief or being angry. We have been taught not to feel them even if they’re normal parts of being human.

When you embrace and allow these emotions to come up in a safe way, you no longer need to defend yourself, so you have more ability to be fully expressed. You can get with the flow of these emotions and permit yourself to be who you are, and that is freeing. 

When you stop limiting yourself and allow yourself to be more authentic, your joy is revealed. You own who you are in a respectful way because you develop inner confidence and authority. You become the expert in your life, and what’s going on for you is right. 

 

Professional Anxiety

Besides emotions, people often experience periods of professional anxiety.

However, through coaching, you can alleviate the signs and symptoms of this condition.

In very simple terms, professional anxiety describes anxiety that you feel in the workplace. However, when you dive deep, it becomes more complicated. It could be related to each of these elements or a combination of them:

  • The work itself
  • A toxic environment
  • The relationships you have with colleagues
  • Your personal tendency to judge, doubt or hold yourself back

If you have professional anxiety, you will always feel you are not good enough for a promotion, even if you might actually be overqualified for a higher position. You worry that your performance is never good enough or doesn’t meet your expectations or ideals. You won’t even go for the role, or perhaps you do but you bring that energy of self-doubt with you. 

My professional anxiety triggered my burnout journey. I felt that I had reached the top of my pay level and had no other way of earning more money, except to do more work. 

So, I worked harder, took on more shifts. I was constantly exhausted and not taking care of myself. My anxiety kept building because I was over giving and overdoing things. I felt like I was doing nothing well. 

In addition, I had this compulsion to ‘fix’ other people’s problems and make them feel better. I now understand that this is impossible, but the need came because of my empathic and sensitive nature. Although these are all good qualities, I absorbed too much of other people’s sensations and feelings. 

I took on everyone else’s problems. I reached a point where the line between my condition and everyone else’s blurred.

If you resonate with my experience, you know it is such an overwhelming burden. 

 

Healthy Boundaries

You need to create healthy boundaries between what’s your responsibility and what’s not yours. 

That’s the whole point. You need to stay in your own lane even if it’s not easy. Once you understand more and recognise that it’s not doing you or the other person any good, then that’s where you can move into that empowered place and make a difference. 

As a certified Tapping into Wealth Coach, I use tapping (EFT) and mindfulness techniques to show my clients what is blocking them and where they are holding themselves back from getting to where they wish to be.

At the heart of what I do is the person. This is why I named my program “It Starts With Me.”

Together, I help my clients do the inside work so that their outer world changes. It truly is transformational. 

To learn more or to schedule your FREE 30-minute Wealth Breakthrough session, contact me.

 

Be Your Own Empowerment Coach Top 10 loving things to say to yourself

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Many of the things we say to ourselves, we wouldn’t dream of saying to another person. We blame, shame, call names of the meanest sort, nag, belittle and bully ourselves through self-talk.

What if instead, we were gentler with ourselves? What if we asked ourselves questions and listened to the responses? What would it be like to treat ourselves as we would treat a best friend, someone we love dearly?

What if we could be our own empowerment coach?

It is possible, and it can start here with this list of loving things to say to yourself.

 

The Top 10 Loving Things to Say to Yourself.

1. What do you feel? Asking ourselves what we feel can help identify and put names to our emotions. To listen for an honest response is like taking our emotional temperature.

 

2. What do you need? A need is different from a want. Whereas a want states a desire, a need is usually a statement about nurturing. Pay attention to your needs; they’re about caring for yourself.

 

3. Good job. Congratulate yourself on a job well done, whether it’s mowing the lawn, completing a work project or cleaning the bathroom. Give yourself a verbal pat on the back.

 

4. I apologise. Saying “I’m sorry” for all the wrongs we have done ourselves—for being self-critical or breaking a promise to yourself, for example—can be the first step in healing.

 

5. Let’s play. Lighten up and be playful. Listen to what comes up when you suggest playing.

 

6. Breathe. Reminding ourselves to breathe helps relieve tension, gives us that moment we sometimes need to centre and ground ourselves.

 

7. I forgive you. Sometimes it’s easier to forgive others than ourselves. Yet, to have closure and to move on, we may also have to forgive ourselves.

 

8. Let go. Releasing anxiety, resentments, and fears loosens the grip of resistance and makes room for growth.

 

9. Be present. Staying present, being aware of the physical, acknowledging the moment—this is when we are truly alive.

 

10. I love you. We say it to others; why not say it to ourselves? Say it again. Say it again!

 

Do mirror work and say to yourself, “I love you.”

Mirror work is one of the simplest yet most profound exercises for learning to love yourself. It was introduced by Louise Hay, and after doing my own mirror work  I have been teaching for years.

It isn’t easy at first, and you will feel a bit silly, but it is worth doing and worth doing on a regular basis.

It’s not so hard. Here’s how… Every time you go to the bathroom, look in the mirror. Look into your own eyes and smile and say, “I love you. You are beautiful. You are amazing! I love you!”

It does get easier! And the reward, life becomes Extra-Ordinary!

 

It’s time for you!

If you know it’s time for you to start being kinder to yourself and you need some help, then reach out. I offer free wealth breakthrough sessions where we get to understand what’s really going on inside for you when it comes to fears, doubts, criticism and judgements.

Why is it a wealth breakthrough session, aren’t we talking about self-love? 
Your money story is a direct representation of how much you value yourself. Is it easy for you to receive? Can you take in a compliment? Can you tell yourself I love you? Can you tell others how amazing you are? If the answer is no, then it’s possible for you to transform your life in every area, to be more confident, to have more true wealth. It’s time for you!

Click here and book your FREE no-obligation 30 minute Wealth Breakthrough Session with me. 

 

Mindset and Behaviour That Lead To Professional Anxiety

Mindset and Behaviour That Lead To Professional Anxiety

Mindset and Behaviour That Lead To Professional Anxiety

Having been a registered nurse for over 30 years and a holistic therapist for over 16 years, I’ve come across many people with professional anxiety. I was actually one of those people. 

Although each case is unique, I’ve discovered certain mindsets and behaviour that are common among people with this type of anxiety.

What You Think and What You Do

People with professional anxiety are often those who have high standards and ideals about what they want to do, and how they want to present themselves and make an impact in the workplace.

So, they tend to exhibit behaviour patterns, such as:

  • Over giving – drawn to helping and caring for others; prioritising other people’s needs over their own.
  • Doubtfulness –  lacking the self-confidence to put themselves forward for better positions, even though they have put in the work and have the necessary expertise and experience.
  • Self-criticism – always thinking that their work is not good enough and focuses on what they could have, would have and should have done.
  • Perfectionism – anxious not to let people down, so they pressure themselves to give only the most flawless and best output all the time.

These mindsets and behaviour are often compounded by workplace anxiety. When a company does not promote a culture of support and instead perpetuates stress and unhealthy competition, then the mental wellbeing of workers suffers even more.

 

Early Signs of Professional Anxiety

Anxiety stemmed from my childhood. This is often the case, because this is when we are forming beliefs about ourselves and how we fit into this world. I don’t know the exact moment it manifested, but I do have a specific memory that shows how it impacted me, even for little things.

It involves a shopping trip with my mother and my sister. I agreed to getting a pair of shoes I hated because I was afraid to speak up.

Meanwhile, my sister got a great pair of shoes because she assertively didn’t settle for anything less.

This tendency to keep things inside stayed with me until I was an adult. It was one of the reasons for my burnout. 

 

Constant Stress

Being in a constant state of stress puts a lot of unhealthy pressure on a person’s mind and spirit. It impacts on everything, including interpersonal relations. We become snappy or resentful.

Now that I have studied more about professional anxiety, I can spot the signs earlier. I become aware of my feelings and can make choices to change my state, through my beliefs, my emotions or behaviours. 

As a recent example, when I was writing my contribution to The Anxiety Relief Handbook, my mind would race and I would be unable to go back to sleep. I experienced shortness of breath and heart palpitations. 

Being aware of the signs helps me take the proper steps to stem out the wave that comes with anxiety and its sibling, overwhelm.

I  can be gentle with myself, acknowledge how I am feeling, dig beneath it to find out what’s really under it and see it for what it is. From here, I can take the best action to ease it. For example, when my mind is spinning with so many things I need to do, I list all the things down. Next is to look at the list and prioritise which things are most important. I can then schedule them and return to a state of ease, or calm.

 

Shake It Off

I love a story I heard many years ago from my BodyTalk training.

Imagine a prey animal like a deer. It is eating grass when a tiger leaps at it. The deer’s fight or flight activates. It races away. If it outruns the tiger, once it’s safe, it shakes its body and resumes eating. The act of shaking releases tension after a life-threatening event.

When humans go through an anxiety attack, our fight or flight mechanism also activates. Our hearts beat fast. Our breathing becomes shallow. Blood goes to the muscles instead of the brain, so we stop thinking logically.

However, since we are almost always under chronic stress, we never get to the point where we shake things off. Instead, we turn around and think things like “Why me?” or “Why did this happen to me?” These negative thoughts continually feed the stress and the anxiety.

So, next time you feel overwhelmed, literally shake it off. It’s a very small thing to do, but it’s very effective. 

If you want to learn more tried-and-tested self-coaching techniques, get The Anxiety Relief Handbook

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