Many of the things we say to ourselves, we wouldn’t dream of saying to another person. We blame, shame, call names of the meanest sort, nag, belittle and bully ourselves through self-talk.
What if instead, we were gentler with ourselves? What if we asked ourselves questions and listened to the responses? What would it be like to treat ourselves as we would treat a best friend, someone we love dearly?
What if we could be our own empowerment coach?
It is possible, and it can start here with this list of loving things to say to yourself.
The Top 10 Loving Things to Say to Yourself.
1. What do you feel? Asking ourselves what we feel can help identify and put names to our emotions. To listen for an honest response is like taking our emotional temperature.
2. What do you need? A need is different from a want. Whereas a want states a desire, a need is usually a statement about nurturing. Pay attention to your needs; they’re about caring for yourself.
3. Good job. Congratulate yourself on a job well done, whether it’s mowing the lawn, completing a work project or cleaning the bathroom. Give yourself a verbal pat on the back.
4. I apologise. Saying “I’m sorry” for all the wrongs we have done ourselves—for being self-critical or breaking a promise to yourself, for example—can be the first step in healing.
5. Let’s play. Lighten up and be playful. Listen to what comes up when you suggest playing.
6. Breathe. Reminding ourselves to breathe helps relieve tension, gives us that moment we sometimes need to centre and ground ourselves.
7. I forgive you. Sometimes it’s easier to forgive others than ourselves. Yet, to have closure and to move on, we may also have to forgive ourselves.
8. Let go. Releasing anxiety, resentments, and fears loosens the grip of resistance and makes room for growth.
9. Be present. Staying present, being aware of the physical, acknowledging the moment—this is when we are truly alive.
10. I love you. We say it to others; why not say it to ourselves? Say it again. Say it again!
Do mirror work and say to yourself, “I love you.”
Mirror work is one of the simplest yet most profound exercises for learning to love yourself. It was introduced by Louise Hay, and after doing my own mirror work I have been teaching for years.
It isn’t easy at first, and you will feel a bit silly, but it is worth doing and worth doing on a regular basis.
It’s not so hard. Here’s how… Every time you go to the bathroom, look in the mirror. Look into your own eyes and smile and say, “I love you. You are beautiful. You are amazing! I love you!”
It does get easier! And the reward, life becomes Extra-Ordinary!
It’s time for you!
If you know it’s time for you to start being kinder to yourself and you need some help, then reach out. I offer free wealth breakthrough sessions where we get to understand what’s really going on inside for you when it comes to fears, doubts, criticism and judgements.
Why is it a wealth breakthrough session, aren’t we talking about self-love?
Your money story is a direct representation of how much you value yourself. Is it easy for you to receive? Can you take in a compliment? Can you tell yourself I love you? Can you tell others how amazing you are? If the answer is no, then it’s possible for you to transform your life in every area, to be more confident, to have more true wealth. It’s time for you!